Give Like a Bodhisattva


December 2022
While we all may not be able to sacrifice ourselves to a tiger, feed the homeless with God's own cheesecake, or become a bodhisattva, we can all give in our own ways. It's good for us, and good for our world.

Note: This post was written as I was thinking about giving, about philanthropy, and the birthday challenge I've established with my children, Lila and Ryrie, in honor of my wife, Wende, and the dZi Foundation. In honor of her 48th birthday, we're matching gifts dollar-for-dollar up to $4,800.00 (for a total gift to dZi of $9,600.00) through the end of the month. Love Nepal? Love dZi? Love Wende? Take a moment and give like a bodhisattva here, and thank you!

Prayer flags flutter beneath post-monsoon clouds at Namobuddha Monastery near Dhulikhel, Nepal.

It was dusk as we made the short trek uphill through delicately terraced hillsides to the hilltop monastery.

This was an important one, a most sacred place, my host family informed me: Namobuddha, the place where an early incarnation of the Buddha learned - and embodied - the gift of compassion by feeding himself to a hungry tigress who had just given birth. We spent hours there, sipping chiyaa (milk tea) with the monks, speaking about Tibetan Buddhism, Nepal, and life in general, and watching post-monsoon clouds dance in the twilight.

For years I’ve recollected upon that evening, the monks speaking with certainty of the veracity of the story, and their urging to me at the end to do the same, follow the Buddha’s lead, learn the gift of compassion. If I’m honest, at the time my 19-year old brain saw the concept as abjectly absurd: feeding oneself to a tigress to save her and her cubs, at your own, painful expense.

A young monk surveys the scene at Swyambhunath Stupa (aka - the Monkey Temple), Kathmandu, Nepal.

Deep down, though, I think I knew the truth, understood the underlying message, the metaphor of the sacrifice. In the legend, the incarnation of the Buddha was a prince, born to wealth and privilege, and coming upon the desperate tigress sparked a burning desire in him to help, to share the wealth - literally or figuratively - he had and she needed. And, in so doing, his sacrifice would cost one life, but save four.

In Mahayana Buddhism, a key concept is that of the bodhisattva. Quite complicated in some ways, the bodhisattva idea can be broken down simply as an enlightened being who remains in samsara (the cycle of death and rebirth) until all sentient beings have also attained enlightenment. Like the Buddha at Namobuddha, an act of true compassion. As Chögyam Trungpa Rinpoche explains:

The bodhisattva vow is the commitment to put others before oneself. It is a statement of willingness to give up one’s own well-being, even one’s own enlightenment, for the sake of others. And a bodhisattva is simply a person who lives in the spirit of that vow, perfecting the qualities known as the six paramitas [perfections]—generosity, discipline, patience, exertion, meditation, and transcendental knowledge—in his effort to liberate beings.

- Chögyam Trungpa Rinpoche

In his wonderful book, Shopping for Buddhas, Jeff Greenwald offers a slightly more tongue-in-cheek - but no less accurate - summation of the bodhisattva:

A bodhisattva is a person who has dedicated an entire lifetime to perfecting the ultimate cheesecake, delicious, creamy, melt-in-your-mouth cheesecake, until finally God on high is compelled to take notice. And God says: “You have pleased me with your efforts. Try this cheesecake; I baked it Myself.” And the bodhisattva bows deeply, takes God’s very own cheesecake, and carries it to the park as an offering to the homeless and the insects.

- Jeff Greenwald, Shopping for Buddhas (library)
Ruins of an ancient Buddhist chorten accent the spectacular landscape of Upper Mustang, Nepal.

Most of us will likely never stumble upon the opportunity to feed ourselves to a starving tigress and her cubs (let alone feed the homeless with God’s cheesecake). I don’t want to speak for you, dear reader, but I am quite certain my attainment of enlightenment is still some time off, and most certainly depends on a Bodhisattva (or two) to get me across the finish line.

But, we all have the opportunity, day in and day out, to act a bit more like the Buddha, like a bodhisattva, by giving - and giving freely, openly, without desire for paychecks or paybacks, karmic returns or salvation. We can engage in the burgeoning, global mutual aid work. We can buy and deliver a meal to a homeless person. We can donate our time, our money, our energy, and our blessings to those who might need some help, a lift, a little assistance.

Not until the creation and maintenance of decent conditions of life for all people are recognized and accepted as a common obligation of all people and all countries—not until then shall we, with a certain degree of justification, be able to speak of humankind as civilized.

Albert Einstein

And, there’s good reason to do so: First off, science increasingly shows that giving makes us happier. And, it’s not just a momentary good feeling, but acts of kindness actually trigger releases of oxytocin, dopamine, and serotonin. I’d posit that those immediate benefits to giving are worth the effort, but there’s more, at least to me. Giving - be it time, money, a held door or a kind word, a smile or a hug, reminds us of our connection to one another, that feeling of oneness, the knowledge we all have - but society tends to shun more than encourage - that there is more to unite us than divide us, and we’re all in this thing together, rising or falling as one. Giving, acting kindly, sharing, and supporting one another breaks down the fences that divide us, brings us together and makes us all stronger.

And, we don’t have to feed ourselves to a tiger to do it.

Prayer flags and the all-seeing Eyes of Buddha at Bodhanath Stupa, Kathmandu, Nepal.
Prayer flags and the all-seeing Eyes of Buddha at Bodhanath Stupa, Kathmandu, Nepal.
Bodhisattva Vow by the Beastie Boys, circa 1994

2 comments on “Give Like a Bodhisattva”

  1. Hi Jake! I know Wendi, albeit never deeply personally, but from our boarding school days. It is so awesome to know what kind of an individual she continues to become, and that her partner and children all have this gorgeous vision. I feel like one crucial component might be added to these ponderings such that martyrdom is in no way assumed by this post, and such that too often western interpretation of bodhisattva activity translates as martyrdom. I think the concept of wisdom, capital W, must be interjected into the notion of a bodhisattva. The wisdom of ultimate spaciousness and inherent connectivity of all beings in all realms. Without this conversation of Wisdom, vajra wisdom and discernment, it is too easy to misunderstand tue nuance of a bodhisattva’s work. Both wings must be about balanced, the compassion and wisdom.

    This is a deeply personal topic to me, and I’m also happy to have more exchanges off-line.

    In service to truth,

    1. Hi Rachel,

      Thanks for your comment, and your insightful words. I agree completely about the misinterpretation of the bodhisattva being a martyr; it seems an easy and logical connection to make in our linear, western mindset, yet not at all - as you so well point out - what the bodhisattva is about. Sacrifice, perhaps, and of course true compassion and giving, but not martyrdom. And, yes 100% on our connectivity, our oneness, uniting us all. For me, the concept of oneness - especially in Hindu and Buddhist thought, as well as to a lesser extent the monist traditions of Christianity, Judaism, and Islam - is so profound and important, yet so often missed in our society. Swami Vivekananda said it well:

      Unity in variety is the plan of the universe. We are all men, and yet we are all distinct from one another. As a part of humanity I am one with you, and as Mr. So-and-so I am different from you. As a man you are separate from the woman; as a human being you are one with the woman. As a man you are separate from the animal, but as living beings, man, woman, animal, and plant are all one; and as existence, you are one with the whole universe. That universal existence is God, the ultimate Unity in the universe. In Him we are all one.

      - Swami Vivekananda, The Ideal of a Universal Religion

      (This was shared in a post about oneness I shared back in September 2021.)

      Thanks again, Rachel, and hope you are well!


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